Motivation

 When I look around me and just listen, observe and embrace daily activities, I find myself being motivated.

When I’m at in class, or anywhere else and I watch people working so hard, I get motivated to also work hard. When I look at relationships other people have with each other, I strive to improve my relationships with my people and motivates me to be the best possible friend.

What motivates me more is when I look at my life a few years back and look at it now, it motivates me to keep on growing to become the person I really want to be. It is really not difficult to get motivated. I really think what motivates me the most out of everything in life is how people handle each other.

When I see two people fighting, loving, talking, laughing, understanding, comforting or whatever the case may be I strive to be better at it and to be the best possible “supporting system” - that is what motivates me.

I love helping people and being there when they need a helping hand and watching interpersonal relationships is what motivates me.

The person who motivates me the most is His Majesty the King Jigme Kheser. WOrld know how he works hard for his subjects and how inspiring his works are. 


Another motivator is a teacher and not just any teacher, this teacher means the absolute world to me and this teacher would be Mr. Tshering Dorji. He was my dzongkha lopoen when I was in tenth standard at Tashigang.

And one more thing that will really motivate me will be love. I've never meant the words "I love you" before. I said it to few when I was bit young, and actually loved. I thought that at one point, I knew what love was; but then I realized, it was merely my infantile stupidity showing. But infantile stupidity sure does hurt. I see it everywhere.

 I haven't been able to truly look at a person and say "I want to be with you forever". I haven't been able to let go of the past and march forward, to a tomorrow that would be filled with happiness. I'm beginning to think that it doesn't exist. But I promise. I shall look with everything inside me for that one thing. I still haven't found it.

Hurt never Smile ever

“Hurt never Smile ever" is not followed by everyone. So as its not even followed in friendship. At times your best friend may hurt you. They may try to do a Hitler act by annoying you and troubling you by saying words which hurt you. Trust me it is painful when you hurt your best friend. I know it because I have always made my best friend cry. I mean not always but at times.

I still remember the day when I fought with my best friend. She was sounding sad and upset. Other day when I spoke to her I learnt that she had cried the whole day for a single issue. I soon apologized and tried to make her happy. When your best friend is upset because of you then go to her/him. Try to be casual, crack few jokes. Hunt for opportunities which would bring a smile in their face. If she is still angry with you then pull their cheeks and say "Cheychey sem mashee siii why are so upset... he he”.

Dear friends, friendship is one of the most priced possession/gifts in the world. A friend is our alter ego. It’s the most pure relationship in the world. They sow the seeds of happiness and you derive more happiness as you reap it. Just be good to friends. Don’t lose your friends even if they love or hurt you.Yeh not to forget ...just give them a kick when he/she has an eye on your girl/guy. Kidding!!

 Keep your dear one/friends always happy...

When your best friend falls in love with your girlfriend/Boyfriend

May sound funny, but it’s not funny. Trust me it happens quite often. One of my friend once had a crush on his best friends girl friend when he was in class 11.But then he was too young, so one can't blame solely for the kid within him. Instead you should blame the hormones if you are planning to blame one. .

Well what happens when your best friend falls in love with your gf/bf? .Nightmare!! no no its not a nightmare. But I would like to say the same thing. Go talk to your best friend. Explain him/her the importance of "your" gf/bf in your life. If he/she is your best friend then they would surely pay heed to your words. And another advice for best friends. Wait and watch method works well at times. If your best friend breaks off with his girlfriend/boyfriend then its time for you. Not at all gross, but this is my idea.

Friendship

Throughout our lives we meet many people, and some of these relationships are short-lived and others are for the long term. We all need a friend for finding happiness in our lives, and both our short and long term friendships play a significant role in this happiness.

Is friendship for a lifetime? It is often hard to say because there is no right answer to this question; sometimes we expect that friendships are for a lifetime and in case of real friendship, friendship can exist as long you live.

Friendship is one of the most important things in our lives and we all have periods with problems or we need advice and having a good friend to turn to is a very nice thing to have. Even if you are married or in a relationship there are always items which you prefer to talk first with your friends; not that your husband or wife doesn't want to listen to these problems but a friend often has another view on certain issues than the person you live with will.

A lifetime friendship can start when we are a little child but many times these friendships are only for a certain period. We get friends when we are going to school; to play with and probably we have many common interests. When we become older it is sometimes hard to keep these friendships alive. At this stage in our life we will probably be in relationships or have gotten married. Keeping in touch is not always easy because very often we live far from each other and our free time is limited.

Most people are going to work outside and in the evening they spent most of the time with their husband or wife. If we have children it is often difficult to make time free for our childhood best friends but there are certainly friendships which can exist for a lifetime. Especially if we are in a sports club or another kind of activity which we share is perfectly possible that the friendship will be so close that we can give your friendship a lifetime agreement.

When we become an adult we will expand our circle and meet new friends. It mostly happens when we don't expect it. This can be near the place we live, at work, during a travel or even online. On this stage of age we will have other interests and also other kind of problems where we need a friend for.

I don't have strong friendship bounds from the time when I was a child or even at from the time when I was in my schools.

I really believe that lifetime friendships exist and I was almost sure I found one five years ago. It happened during my ninth and tenth standard at Tashigang. I never was in group. I never mingle with my mates. I was not sure how this happened. The day I realize it was SHE. And worst of all our true friendship was shattered due to distance and belief systems.

Now I am here in College of Science and Technology. Study in college is different from that of schools. We have to do lots of group work, group assignment, group discussions and etc. we organized works in group, and since then my friendship with them become closer. We called each other and go for walk. And they are no other than Sangay Jamtsho (Douley/Khamjay), Sonam Dorji, Sonam Rabten(Smart Rascal), Dechen Norbu(DecNor), Phuntsho wangdi(Phuss), Deki Phuntsho(Pykala), Choki Dorji and etc.

We are exposed to internet. The use of Internet makes it possible to find friends online. There are many dating sites where you can find friends online. I found the last one year some good online friends in writing sites and some of them are now friends. Keeping in touch is really not difficult; e-mail and messenger services make it possible to keep these friendships alive. These friendships are still young and it is difficult to say now if these friendships are for a lifetime but I really believe that some of them are for a lifetime.

Friendships are important in life and if you find a real friend I am quite sure that real friendships exist for a lifetime. It happens very frequently that friendships have a longer lifetime than a romantic relationship or a marriage and you can also have lifetime friendships with someone of the opposite sex. True friendship is really beautiful and offers you benefits for a lifetime.

Friendship not to break

Is it possible for twenty children to play together for twenty years? Thinking about some old friends brings a lot of refreshing and great memories to mind. When I consider some childhood friends, I really wish we could get together and be friends again. The real fact is that some friendships are not meant to last forever. A friend of mine once told me that friendship can expire. I totally agree with him, because the relationship with some of my friends has actually expired.

Cheers and be friend!!!!!

Sangay Dema

We are exposed to the internet. The use of the Internet makes it possible to find friends online. There are many dating sites where we can find friends online. Keeping in touch is really not difficult; e-mail, Facebook, and messenger services make it possible to keep these friendships alive. These friendships are still young. 

Friendship is sharing in the search for truth and happiness with one or others. A true friendship would last forever over time and time. Nothing is more precious than having a true friendship because we can't live without it. 

Sangay T Dema

Thank you, Sangay Dema.  You are my Facebook friend. Chatting with you is fun. 

You make me laugh...and make me forget my problems. We share our interest and aspirations. I'll never forget what you shared with me. You have brought joy and life to me; you may be there for me to help me through the dark hours; you may smile at me and cheer me up. When others get tired of my tears, my depression, my anger, and my sadness, you may be there for me and make me laugh anyway. Hehehehe... Don't mind.

You are a positive and cheerful person, one who finds excitement in even the smallest thing. As much as I know you are not in depression and never hide from life's ups and downs. To blame thyself for what is happening around or to you is more than just a norm for you. 

And lastly, I consider you as my friend even though I have not seen you and didn't spend a single minute with you. I think you are a close friend, and maybe you'll be a friend in some senses of the word.

Thank you, Facebook, for giving me such a wonderful and cheerful friend. 

And I urge you to always be happy, as you said, and good luck for everything... and I hope you wouldn't mind this nonsense.

Take care, Sangay.... 

Missing you hehehehe...