I WaNt to saY thAnK yOu.

this is a tribute to my friends...If they could only read...You might think I'm crazy, but..You don't know..How much I love my friends..so, just bear with me...

Rabten

When you have a friend who stands by you, always there for you, always supports you, how do you say thank you? When you are all alone, well, not all alone but people get tired of being there for you, you've worn them out, or you've worn yourself out, who do you turn to? How do you trust when you want to push everyone away because of the pain and yet hold them close because you're afraid to let go but no one wants you to do that?

My friends are always there. They all have their own little ways of showing it. Dawley is cool, talkative, puts his hand on my shoulder and just criticize me as Khamjay, psycho and so on. If I have little free time, that's ok, I'll go to his room and chat. Among all we will talk on having a relationship with girls. Whenever I see him chatting with girls online I insist him to introduce me.

Sonam Rabten, Ajang, my only spectacle friend. He is silly and smart and sometimes he is called SMART RASCAL. He wants my attention, just walking from behind me and he’ll say “wai Pubba” mean Phurpa Thinley, Bhutanese comedian. Hearing this sometimes I get total frustration. And I wonder how I resemble Phurpa Thinley. May be because of my little long chin like him. Looking at him frustrating just make me smile because he never meant what he says. He will distract me and play and beat on my shoulder and hip until I use Newton’s third law. I guess that is natural for him to be like this for me. 

sonam

CHOTA DON

Phuntsho Wangdi, my little CHOTA DON. We spend time together sharing experiences and joking. He offers support and ear. Oftentimes I seek advice from him how to go about in solving problems.
His dialogged "hey Jaro" and clicking his thumb offers me to make laugh. He is really a friend who remind me not to take life too seriously among friends and help each other cope when things are not going well. It is like
 blessing to have friend like him in my life.


Sonam Dorji, the most committed friend I've ever had.  He is senior. He is my room mate.  He teaches me. He will do whatever I ask if it is academic. He truly is a wonderful friend.

Kinzang Wangmo, my beautiful girl friend I ever had. She is now at Samtse college of education. By November she will complete her training in secondary education. She never expresses what she feels. And I know what she feels for me. She is the first one I proposed. With her short straight hair, and her smiling face..(I can tell if she is smiling)...Slim, tall and eldest in her family. She is not that bright but she's my life. I worry about her right now...Not because she is away...But I feel she may leave me.

And the irony is we are once departed and now on verge of rejoining. I love her so much.

And lastly Ngawang Tenzin who is currently at Samtse College.I should have been more careful... because he teased me when I make slight mistake. He is so smart, and he was actually my first friend who is always close...He used to go to sleep every night before anyone. Now that he's gone..I'm still thinking of him every now and then..Wishing, if only he is fine and miss call him sometimes. I miss you Ngawang.

There are so many more friends that are in my life, I miss them all. They have all brought such joy and life to me, they are there for me to help me through the dark hours, they smile at me and cheer me up...when others get tired of my tears and my depression, my anger and sadness, you are all there for me and love me anyway. I am ok in your eyes...I am good enough...You give me what I most desire, to be good enough.

Thank you...

Life is beaUtifuL

From the little experiences that I have:: The word life is known to all individuals in this world. It looks how we see it. To some it is adventurous, to some it is thrilling and to some it is boring. This is all due to how we see and handle problems in life.
Here is the quotation about life;

"The difference between school and life is in school; you're taught a lesson and then given a test. In life, you're given a test that teaches you a lesson."

This quote is really true in everyone's life. Even in the school, life teaches us some lessons. Each and every day we learn lessons. One thing is that life keeps us test everyday but only few tests seem so important later when we realize it.

Life is an Adventure ... Dare it
Life is a Beauty ... Praise it
Life is a Challenge ... Meet it
Life is a Duty ... Perform it
Life is a Struggle ... Fight it
Life is a Promise ... Fulfill it
Life is a Game ... Play it
Life is a Gift ... Accept it
Life is a Journey ... Complete it
Life is a Mystery ... Unfold it
Life is a Goal ... Achieve it
Life is an Opportunity ... Take it
Life is a Puzzle ... Solve it
Life is a Song ... Sing it
Life is a Sorrow ... Overcome it
Life is a Spirit ... Realize it

These words we hear every day. We may think they are just beautiful words which people say to get applause for their speeches. But people had said only by experience.

Like air, Life is also a mixture of many things joy, sorrow, humour, tears, etc,

The most important thing we need to live is to have hope and confidence in our self. If we lose our confidence level life seems boring and serious.

One's life is in one's hands. Only we make our life not others. In fact a life without problems is really boring. If one is skilful enough to handle the problems in life then life seem good to him. The best way is to take the problems as positive way.

There should be a goal in everyone's life. Life is not estimated on the size of the goal. In fact to one one's own goal appears big and great. But a life without a goal is like a "boat without a rudder."

One should understand that none is born in joy lives in it and dies with the same. Similarly one is born in sorrow, lives and dies in it. Life is like sailing in a boat, the weather is not the smooth always. One should face the problem, analyze and find a way to come out of it.

One should judge life by their enjoyement and sorrow. Life is real! Life is earnest! Life is not actually what we see.

We do an experiment in the physics laboratory during our schooling, we do the following thing in the calculation.

We do the experiment first and note the value in the notebook.

We repeat the experiment for five or six times and note down the values.

While calculating, for the final answer we take average.

 For accuracy we consider the mean value as the final value.

Similarly we can consider our experience as the values we note and take average. We will come to a conclusion that the final answer (i.e. the mean value) is "life is beautiful."

Summary of My SaY

I am waiting for to rejoin with you and hope everything will be normal as before. And I am afraid and nervous for how you may react.

Hope to hear from you soon.
Take care and Study hard.

Missing JOys.

Joy can be found in little thing, simple things in life. The smile of a child, the laughter of a child, can bring much joy to person. When we get job it can bring much joy. When a woman finds out she is pregnant she is joyful. And you, Kinza missing from my life fetch me no joy... NO.. not at all..

My graduation from this college, college of science and Technology, wouldn't bring me a joy but it will be a great pride for my parents and relatives.

When a person is over coming any obstacle in life, we'll find much joy in their attitudes. Joy can mean many things to different people. It all depends on what a person values in their life. for some people their hobbies bring them much joy. For some, it is how they spend their spare time. It is important that we all take time out to enjoy our life. But for me having you in my life will be much valued and enjoyable.

I have planted a seed.  Every spring I have a opportunity to plant seeds of many kind and watch them sprout and grow. One tiny seed that sprouts and becomes a flower or vegetable is wondrous and joyful thing to watch. Every year this brings me a simple joy. It requires little attention and provides wonder and amazement. Watch a thirsty plant when it rains. I have seen it reaching up and becoming alive. This is truly a joyous thing. Standing near, missing someone, regretting and seeing  the beauty of sun set and rise  tear rolls down from my cheeks. It dissolves my joyful moment.  Still thinking about you and hoping these joys would permanently stay. Still miss you Kinza...

Life is meaningless without my love one. You are always special to me. Come back my dear, come back. With folding arms, i am waiting to beg sorry for everything, I reaally love you KINZA OM....

Sangay Cholden's Random Thoughts: To Dear Kinzang (It is not to hurt you)

Sangay Cholden's Random Thoughts: To Dear Kinzang (It is not to hurt you)

Time Doesn't permit

After hearing His Majesty's intention to wed Jetsun Pema, I thought of putting my thoughts of how His Majesty motivated me in writing, but time doesn't permits me. Being a trainee in only Engineering college in the country, we are always technical; have to do lots of research and infinite number of assignments and projects. These all keep me busy and on top of that I have to prepare for tests and semester exams. The frequency of test conducted is too high.. In a week we have to do more than two to three tests. And if we count the number of test conducted in a semester on our fingers,  hmm.. its totaling around 47. Every semester we have to do 47 tests including viva, quizzes, and etc.

I am sure I'll write the above mentioned after my exams are over. I have no other option to express my gratitude to His majesty. This is the only platform where I can share my deep sense of motivation and respect. 

And I pray, I may be free after exams. 

WHat I Always wanted to tEll you KinZa

From the day you excepted my proposal, i felt, I achieved something in my life. I didn't know that our good relation will ruin. Just to be frank, I have never said I love you to anyone before. And too I haven't been able to truly look at you and say "I want to be forever". But i really felt from my inner of heart. Everything was my diffidence that forbid me. In most relationship, the time to say good bye usually arrives at one point or another. I have seen many couple break-up after sometime.They have shared memories that has made them laugh or cry, and some says its time to take our experiences, put them in your back and move on.But I cannot do that.


I didn't promise you everything, I didn't give you anything, may be I didn't let you be happy, i didn't help you much, I didn't date you, i didn't cuddle you and I didn't talk to you much. From the day i departed from you, from Tashigang i felt something was always missing with me. Meeting and separating is the law of nature. We cannot stop that. From that I missed you so much.


It's human nature to be jealous or resentful when we heard something  different about our dear one. I did't know how much you have confirm that i have relationship with other girl. And i am too not sure how much you believe rumors. 

I still remember your dialogs. When I think back my eyes are always filling up with tears. Whenever my friends question about our relation I blushed always. I can't say anything. In such situations I am dumb Sangay. Every body praise your good characters. And I know you were good, is good and will be good always. I am not praising you. I know how compassionate you are, how much exquisite you are, how much frank you are, how much lovely you are... 


Kinza.. Don't think I am bullshitting here. What is said and written here is solely what i feel and wanted to tell you. Do you know why I am not telling you all these in phone call? Reason is I am afraid of how you will react. And whenever I call you I end up saying how are you, how is your training going on? How is everything there? how is ngawang and all.. and after all these, I have to end my call though I have  something I wanted to tell you always. 


I was told, "you dumped me". Yes you are correct I dumped you because you thought that I dump you. It is not Kinza. I have never leave you, never hate you, never neglected you. I always love and care you. I have never  hold your hands to tell you that I love you the most in this world. I always wanted to tell you this. 


And, one question I want to ask you, do you believe in what people who know you but not in contact tells you that I love you online ??? Due to internet we are expose to everything. We meet different kind of people online. People flirt. They tell lies. I too have many online friends. Maximum of them are girls. I chat with them but never in serious. I never tell lies and cheat others. 


THe main point I wanted to tell you is I want  to REJOIN you. Please forgive me for what has happened. Your absence in my life is making me crazy. Sometimes I lost in thinking of you. Hope I wouldn't go mad thinking thinking of you. And if  I am mad may be that is my fate. 


lastly, Kinza, I am making my two hands one and begging you to forgive me for annoying by sending your epistles and all. This is the biggest crime I have committed.ever in my life and I still regret it. Whenever I go in Temples, lhakhangs I always offers my shagpaa. And I hope one day god will hear me.  I still love you care you more than anyone in this world. 


And don't mind if you think it's a nonsense. Good Luck KINZA..... 


With warm regards from your Sangay......

Motivation

 When I look around me and just listen, observe and embrace daily activities, I find myself being motivated.

When I’m at in class, or anywhere else and I watch people working so hard, I get motivated to also work hard. When I look at relationships other people have with each other, I strive to improve my relationships with my people and motivates me to be the best possible friend.

What motivates me more is when I look at my life a few years back and look at it now, it motivates me to keep on growing to become the person I really want to be. It is really not difficult to get motivated. I really think what motivates me the most out of everything in life is how people handle each other.

When I see two people fighting, loving, talking, laughing, understanding, comforting or whatever the case may be I strive to be better at it and to be the best possible “supporting system” - that is what motivates me.

I love helping people and being there when they need a helping hand and watching interpersonal relationships is what motivates me.

The person who motivates me the most is His Majesty the King Jigme Kheser. WOrld know how he works hard for his subjects and how inspiring his works are. 


Another motivator is a teacher and not just any teacher, this teacher means the absolute world to me and this teacher would be Mr. Tshering Dorji. He was my dzongkha lopoen when I was in tenth standard at Tashigang.

And one more thing that will really motivate me will be love. I've never meant the words "I love you" before. I said it to few when I was bit young, and actually loved. I thought that at one point, I knew what love was; but then I realized, it was merely my infantile stupidity showing. But infantile stupidity sure does hurt. I see it everywhere.

 I haven't been able to truly look at a person and say "I want to be with you forever". I haven't been able to let go of the past and march forward, to a tomorrow that would be filled with happiness. I'm beginning to think that it doesn't exist. But I promise. I shall look with everything inside me for that one thing. I still haven't found it.

Hurt never Smile ever

“Hurt never Smile ever" is not followed by everyone. So as its not even followed in friendship. At times your best friend may hurt you. They may try to do a Hitler act by annoying you and troubling you by saying words which hurt you. Trust me it is painful when you hurt your best friend. I know it because I have always made my best friend cry. I mean not always but at times.

I still remember the day when I fought with my best friend. She was sounding sad and upset. Other day when I spoke to her I learnt that she had cried the whole day for a single issue. I soon apologized and tried to make her happy. When your best friend is upset because of you then go to her/him. Try to be casual, crack few jokes. Hunt for opportunities which would bring a smile in their face. If she is still angry with you then pull their cheeks and say "Cheychey sem mashee siii why are so upset... he he”.

Dear friends, friendship is one of the most priced possession/gifts in the world. A friend is our alter ego. It’s the most pure relationship in the world. They sow the seeds of happiness and you derive more happiness as you reap it. Just be good to friends. Don’t lose your friends even if they love or hurt you.Yeh not to forget ...just give them a kick when he/she has an eye on your girl/guy. Kidding!!

 Keep your dear one/friends always happy...

When your best friend falls in love with your girlfriend/Boyfriend

May sound funny, but it’s not funny. Trust me it happens quite often. One of my friend once had a crush on his best friends girl friend when he was in class 11.But then he was too young, so one can't blame solely for the kid within him. Instead you should blame the hormones if you are planning to blame one. .

Well what happens when your best friend falls in love with your gf/bf? .Nightmare!! no no its not a nightmare. But I would like to say the same thing. Go talk to your best friend. Explain him/her the importance of "your" gf/bf in your life. If he/she is your best friend then they would surely pay heed to your words. And another advice for best friends. Wait and watch method works well at times. If your best friend breaks off with his girlfriend/boyfriend then its time for you. Not at all gross, but this is my idea.

Friendship

Throughout our lives we meet many people, and some of these relationships are short-lived and others are for the long term. We all need a friend for finding happiness in our lives, and both our short and long term friendships play a significant role in this happiness.

Is friendship for a lifetime? It is often hard to say because there is no right answer to this question; sometimes we expect that friendships are for a lifetime and in case of real friendship, friendship can exist as long you live.

Friendship is one of the most important things in our lives and we all have periods with problems or we need advice and having a good friend to turn to is a very nice thing to have. Even if you are married or in a relationship there are always items which you prefer to talk first with your friends; not that your husband or wife doesn't want to listen to these problems but a friend often has another view on certain issues than the person you live with will.

A lifetime friendship can start when we are a little child but many times these friendships are only for a certain period. We get friends when we are going to school; to play with and probably we have many common interests. When we become older it is sometimes hard to keep these friendships alive. At this stage in our life we will probably be in relationships or have gotten married. Keeping in touch is not always easy because very often we live far from each other and our free time is limited.

Most people are going to work outside and in the evening they spent most of the time with their husband or wife. If we have children it is often difficult to make time free for our childhood best friends but there are certainly friendships which can exist for a lifetime. Especially if we are in a sports club or another kind of activity which we share is perfectly possible that the friendship will be so close that we can give your friendship a lifetime agreement.

When we become an adult we will expand our circle and meet new friends. It mostly happens when we don't expect it. This can be near the place we live, at work, during a travel or even online. On this stage of age we will have other interests and also other kind of problems where we need a friend for.

I don't have strong friendship bounds from the time when I was a child or even at from the time when I was in my schools.

I really believe that lifetime friendships exist and I was almost sure I found one five years ago. It happened during my ninth and tenth standard at Tashigang. I never was in group. I never mingle with my mates. I was not sure how this happened. The day I realize it was SHE. And worst of all our true friendship was shattered due to distance and belief systems.

Now I am here in College of Science and Technology. Study in college is different from that of schools. We have to do lots of group work, group assignment, group discussions and etc. we organized works in group, and since then my friendship with them become closer. We called each other and go for walk. And they are no other than Sangay Jamtsho (Douley/Khamjay), Sonam Dorji, Sonam Rabten(Smart Rascal), Dechen Norbu(DecNor), Phuntsho wangdi(Phuss), Deki Phuntsho(Pykala), Choki Dorji and etc.

We are exposed to internet. The use of Internet makes it possible to find friends online. There are many dating sites where you can find friends online. I found the last one year some good online friends in writing sites and some of them are now friends. Keeping in touch is really not difficult; e-mail and messenger services make it possible to keep these friendships alive. These friendships are still young and it is difficult to say now if these friendships are for a lifetime but I really believe that some of them are for a lifetime.

Friendships are important in life and if you find a real friend I am quite sure that real friendships exist for a lifetime. It happens very frequently that friendships have a longer lifetime than a romantic relationship or a marriage and you can also have lifetime friendships with someone of the opposite sex. True friendship is really beautiful and offers you benefits for a lifetime.

Friendship not to break

Is it possible for twenty children to play together for twenty years? Thinking about some old friends brings a lot of refreshing and great memories to mind. When I consider some childhood friends, I really wish we could get together and be friends again. The real fact is that some friendships are not meant to last forever. A friend of mine once told me that friendship can expire. I totally agree with him, because the relationship with some of my friends has actually expired.

Cheers and be friend!!!!!

Sangay Dema

We are exposed to internet. The use of Internet makes it possible to find friends online. There are many dating sites where we can find friends online. Keeping in touch is really not difficult; e-mail, facebook and messenger services make it possible to keep these friendships alive. These friendships are still young. 

Friendship is sharing in the search for truth and good with one or others. A true friendship would last forever over time and time. Nothing is more precious than have a true friendship because we can't live without it. 

Sangay T Dema

Thank you Sangay Dema.  You are my facebook friend. Chating with you is fun. 

You  make me laugh..and makes me forget my problems. We share our interest and aspirations. I'll never forget what you share with me. You have  brought  joy and life to me, you may be there for me to help me through the dark hours, you may smile at me and cheer me up...when others get tired of my tears and my depression, my anger and sadness, you may be there for me and makes me laugh anyway. Hehehehe.. Don't mind.

You are positive and cheerful person, one who find excitements in even the smallest thing.. As much as I know you are not in depression and never hide from life's ups and downs. To blame thyself on what is happening around or to you is more than just a norm fro you. 

And lastly, I consider you as my friend even though I have not seen you and didn't spend  a single minute with you. I think you are close friend and may be you'll be friend in some senses of the world.

Thank you facebook for giving me such a wonderful and cheerful friend. 

And I urge you to be always happy as you said and good luck for everything..... and hope you wouldn't mind for this nonsense.

Take care Sangay.... 

Missing you hehehehe.....

Its Funny to recollect :: Dreams..

Teenagers use their friends to assist them in getting an attention from girl or boy. If we see a particular group of girls always hanging around where we spend time, chances are, there is a girl in the group who thinks you are the answer to her Charming fantasy. If there is giggling, whispering, and sometimes, pointing, whenever we pass by or we are in their area, try to pick out the one who appears embarrassed and does not look directly at you. This is the one who is crazy about you.

It was during my schooling at Rangjung Higher Secondary school. I was in twelfth standard. I thought I was falling in love with a girl. I used to feel totally different when I see her. Her name is Sangay Wangmo. She was in ninth standard and a day scholar. Though I was senior to her I never got confident to stand by her. I thought I was the only one that admires her style of scoring in basket ball, beauty, smile and walking style. I have attended sports events, cultural shows.. sitting up front cheering everything for her besides my busy schedule to do home works.

Once it was in morning assembly, I have manipulated others to ensure that she stands by my side. My simple plan was to give her an epistle. And I thought to ask if she is interested in me.?? A simple “yes” or “no” answer to a single question. But my hesitancy didn’t allow. Then a plain idea strikes my mind. To act on it I got my friends to start rumors about the fact that I am crazy about her.

It was during one fine SUPW work program.  We were allocated work together. She greeted me. I was astound and blushed for awhile. Not knowing what to say, I gave my sexy smile. May be she might have heard about fact rumors.  I never thought she be interested in me.  Or my assumption s is wrong.  

From that day, she greeted me warmly every morning.  Days passed .. and I was confident enough to face her everywhere. We shared our interests, likes and aspirations. But I controlled to tell her what I really felt. From then she brought small gifts from home. It was all that were mentioned in conversations. And one special was a pen for my pocket that “doesn’t leak”.

She laughs at my jokes, find opportunities to be a confined space with me. At lunch, she will tell me that there is something around my mouth, then wipes it off with her finger instead of a napkin. After lunch we will extend our conversations, betting our eyes, giving a sexy smile, teasing and touching. And sometimes we will be late in our class.

One fine afternoon, She steer the conversation to a more personal level, put her hand on my arm, talking, and run her fingers through her hair several times, and ,moisten her lips often and whispered her secret in my ears. “Sangay, I am in Love with you”.

Heat of Engineering (To my High School Friends)

Before you decide whether or not to study engineering at university, you have to develop a good understanding of what "engineering" actually is. What do engineers do? Where can engineering take you? How is it different to science or mathematics? Will you be able to get a job? And, how much will you get paid?

First of all, engineering is VERY broad. Specializations can range from traditional fields such as civil, electrical and mechanical engineering to new emerging branches like biomedical, computer systems, and green' technology. All engineering subjects are rooted firmly in combining advanced mathematical and scientific knowledge to solve real-world problems. Essentially, engineers are the problem-solvers, innovators and research and developers that make much of modern life possible. From the bridges you drive across, the car you drive and the GPS (a system that can show the exact position of a person or thing by using signals from satellites) system that tell you where to go - all were designed by a team of very skilled civil, mechanical, and electrical engineers.

As populations increase and the push to be ever more modern and sophisticated continues, jobs for engineering graduates continue to increase. Indeed with the emergence of new engineering fields, many new jobs are continually being created. For example, the development of the internet 15 years ago created a huge boom for computer systems or software programming engineers. Bhutan being in the developing stage always shouts of engineer shortage. Nowadays, in light of the global green movement, sustainable building processes and materials has become an increasingly prominent engineering field. All this leads us to believe that studying engineering will set you up for a very bright future - and because engineers are in such high demand, the pay is exceptionally good!

Of course, how much money you get should never be the determining factor for choosing any career; the true secret is to do something you feel truly passionate about. The very nature of engineering means that you will have to enjoy and be good at calculus, physics and a range of other maths and sciences. However, engineering is not only for maths, science or computer geeks! It is also a very good study choice if you're really passionate about working in a specialised field like environmental protection, bioengineering, advanced telecommunications, or robotics. If you like to solve problems and create things, then engineering could be for you.

Bear in mind that engineering does involve a lot of hard work! Not only will you be studying a wide range of topics, but there are many practical experiments, projects and research that you will have to do. All are time-consuming and require a great deal of commitment and determination to get done. Basically, engineering is not for the lazy student. Your laziness will be proved if you do engineering in College of Science and Technology or elsewhere you go in the engineering colleges.

Ultimately, the choice of what to study at university is a very important decision that draws on a lot of personal factors like your own interests, strengths and study habits. Outside factors such as job prospects or your parents' opinions and friends opinions should be considered, but certainly do not let your parents and friends decide for you what you should do!

Also, though engineering is a very male-dominated profession. Girls will have to be prepared for weird looks should not stop you determined girls from giving it a go and proving to all that girls can do engineering, too! And that has happened.

 Good Luck!!!

Vacancy Announcement for Osama!!!

Now the USA has taken out terror leader Osama Bin Laden, there is a vacancy at top of one of the world's leading terrorist organisation, Al Qaeda.

This job opening brings with it some serious dangers. The applicants will be few. however, the position brings with it a lot of international power and prestige, making it a desirable job for those who are interested in terrorist's mission. 

After the death of him, the US Government said that the world is safer place, and it may be, but terror lives on and so do threats against the US. The big question for all or for many is now who now will be the leading figure of Al Qaeda?

The death of Bin Laden is certainly a demoralizing for his followers. People may say Al Qaeda has been noticeably weakened now that its leader is gone forever, but I think its the real time where we have to be extra careful. In the decades since AL queada emerged as a terror group, many franchises have emerged that share the name and mission of the parent group, but operate independently in places like Iraq, Libya and etc.. this plurality of group means that the next leader of international terror may not even come from Bin Laden's operation.

One extra precaution that the world should now concern is "tight the security". Who knows the most frustrated follower of Bin laden who is equally equipped like him may again create miserable history.

And my simple note to everyone is from the day we were born we started dying and act accordingly and don't go for Osama's mission. Living a Life like sandal in a bin isn't justifiable if you hurt others.

Good luck.....