My Apa & Ama

When I was a school student and now too, my mom would prepare special lunch every time I went back home  from school with Gotham. And I remember one night in particular, after a long, hard day at work. On that night so long ago, my mother placed a plate of burned food in front of my dad. I thought he will be angry. Yet all my dad did was ate it, smile at my mom and ask me how were my days at school. I don't remember what I told him that night, but I do remember watching him eating plate full of burned kharang! With potato curry.

When I went to sleep, I remember hearing my mom apologize to my dad for burning the food. And I'll never forget what he said, “Honey, I love burned Kharang.”

Later that night, I went to Daddy to say good night and I asked him if he really liked his Kharang burned.

He flicked me on my forehead and said, “Karma (my name in family and village) Your mother put in a hard day at work today and she's real tired. And besides - a little burnt Kharang never hurt anyone! You know, life is full of imperfect things... and imperfect people. I'm not the best at hardly anything, and I forget just like everyone else.

What I've learned over the years is that learning to accept each other’s faults - and choosing to celebrate each other’s differences - is one of the most important keys to creating a healthy, growing, and lasting relationship.”

And that's my prayer for you today. That you will learn to take the good, the bad, and the ugly parts of your life and lay them at the feet of God. Because in the end, He's the only One who will be able to give you a relationship where a burnt kharang isn't a deal-breaker!

We could extend this to any relationship. In fact, understanding is the base of any relationship, be it a husband-wife or parent-child or friendship!

Don't put the key to your happiness in someone else's pocket - keep it in your own.

God Bless You... Now, and always..

So please pass me a Kharang, and yes, the burnt one will do just fine!
And please pass this along to someone who has enriched your life... I just did!

FaceBooKing

FaceBooKing  can lead to infidelity.

Facebook can open the doors to infidelity in various ways. Many people spend way too much time on this website looking for ways to waste their time. It then becomes a fascination for many people as well. It becomes the main avenue in which they are able to contact other people. Almost everyone has a Facebook account these days. Therefore it has become very easy to fall into temptation when so much time and energy is devoted to constantly checking status updates on Facebook and connecting with people from the past or just people that seem interesting for the moment.

Facebook connections are attractive because there is a level of distance. The affair is limited to the keys and the individual simply has they shut the computer off and walk away and any indiscretions are out of sight out of mind. This perceived safety is inviting and leads to many people having affairs over Facebook.

The website takes a lot of time and energy of a person who becomes obsessed with the site. This leads to more chances of making connections with others. You also have the ability to chat with several people at once through Facebook. The assumed safety of the separation between the online world and offline world is what encourages people to cheat through it. However, the online and offline world are becoming more and more merged and connected. In fact, there are now ways to show on Facebook where you are in real life at any given time.

Facebook makes it easy to act out unfaithfulness because it is a website that you could be contacting friends or family through. This lowers the suspicion of the person being cheated on, as they probably do have a Facebook account themselves and only uses it to connect to old friends. Whereas the cheater has the opportunity to seek out old contacts that they can then develop an emotional intimacy with through the private messaging system or the Facebook chat system.

People who want to cheat will find a way to do so. They do not need to only limit their actions to Facebook. But Facebook does give these cheaters good ways of being secret and discreet. It is basically hiding in plain site. They can also use the website as a way to communicate and develop an emotional connection through their private messages. Partners should look for warning signs of cheating if they find their partner becoming too obsessed with constantly checking their Facebook account.

Many people these days get paired up on Facebook! There were many incidences where my friends and many people meet after introduction and proposal in Facebook. It is ridiculous. Actually we don’t know the real sentiment of a person. Though photos may be worth thousand words but we can’t judge the book by its cover.

People get mesmerized by beautiful and handsome photos. They share personal phone number, come closer, closer and meet somewhere. For many, feelings shared online turns to an action. They kiss…… and end of the story after few days or months!!....... THE END

Don't Fear to Cross it!!

Technology isn’t new at all. The problem is people are still unaware of its worth functionalities. Most of the people crossing Omchu Bridge near the bus terminal here in Phuntsholing seem panic the moment they step the bridge. All are sly to say the structures are weak, old and about to collapse. But it is not.

Omchu Bridge

Structures can be designed to vibrate when heavy loads ply on it or when the nature trembles, like earthquake. For example in Japan, most of the buildings are designed in such a way that it vibrate about its toe when there is an earthquake.

walls built to channelize water

In the Omchu Bridge we can see cracks being developed mainly near the abutment. These cracks are caused by earthquake last year. These cracks will not affect the main structures since it is not part of it. It was constructed to protect the pressure of river flow when the level of water rises in summer.

The RCC Walls were constructed to channelize the water flow to prevent scoring and erosion of the banks that takes place every summer.  Previously there were plain cement concrete and gabion walls.

Moreover the capacity of the bridge is 40 metric tons.

When heavy vehicles and machineries ply over it, it is subjected to vibrate. And I know it vibrate pretty violently but it is not going to happen anything instead cross it cool. I could see people increasing the pace the jiffy they are on bridge.

If anybody by chance crossing the bridge with heavy machines and vehicles, no need to panic instead enjoy the little vibration so that we prepare ourselves for the heavy vibration of earthquake. Lol!!... 

For the Cause!

For so many years they have been suffering. They were suffering silently and the right to call father of kids in needy hours would have been even more heart breaking for them. For sure after birth, we are bound to be the victim of bad health and in such needy time to have both caring parents they were left alone with helpless single mother. How would it be if you are in such situation?

May be some may utter it’s their bad luck. Can this be truly their bad luck? Are they educated enough? No! They were cheated by Peak Learners! They were actually deprived of being village girl. We can’t anticipate such mischief from the blooming peak learners of Shercol.

It will be great relieve and frustrating moment for the concern mothers and the grown up kids. By this time some child might have completed their high school education and written their unknown father name many times in schools. And so sad of all, few might have left forever.

It is a great initiative taken by Kesang Choden. And I fully support the logic behind to trace the missing fathers (planters) of the kids of the unfortunate girls around Sherabtse College vicinity. Soon the theme “God sees the Truth but waits” will be confirmed. And 178 or more officers will be tagged – detected missing father. And it will be great opportunity for all to witness their college notions and characters back then in Shercol.

One thing that again grab my attention- stoning the college gate! Fighting for the noble cause with such target with GNH as top priority in the Nation can’t be justified. What you will get when you stone the gate? Will it suffice what you intend for? I think this is illogical and luckily it didn’t happen and I wish it will not happen in future.

Good luck and let’s all wait for the Judgment.

One Thing that I want in my Life

I don’t desire much in life. I am simple man of less desire that strive for accomplishment rather then  success. I don’t wish for luxurious life. But I want one thing that it always grasps my attention whenever it plies swiftly. I don’t know the fact behind why I crave for. Just I want it!!

My dream car!!

Hope one day I'll drive it!!

What I always Miss

When all becomes past and the moment we part away from, we tend to miss them. We miss them because we remember. It drags oneself to fantasy of what we were and what happened once upon a time. Memory of our childhood is very interesting such that it brings meek smiles.

I always miss my childhood days... I miss how I got dirty easily and get heavy scolding from my mother! I miss how my father would smile when I was scolded and thrashed for my mischief. He is so cool and nice guy and my dear mother always with stick for every mischief, who shape me to what I am today. Thank you my mother and I miss you a lot.

I miss my school days. I miss those days where I bunked from school and enjoyed playing in bushes with friends like little cute monkey baby! I miss how me and my friends asked for a drop of ink in Chinese pen... I miss the laughter of my school classroom environment! The moments of not understanding the handwriting of teachers written on the blackboard and murmuring to the desk mate and rush for second shares at lunch were those that it lets me to be once more a naughty kid. I miss the times where we were in bare foot and played Baktang Ball (ball made of stitched cloths) and didn’t care whose leg hit stones.

Missing is just but my eyes well up when I think of my gone friends! Some gone forever leaving behind beautiful memories and hope they are stilling smiling in heaven!! I still miss the moment once my little friend said he want to be a doctor and cure his paralyzed mother! He was so cute that we were always together and do whatever we want to do and give my company. We cherished to tease monkeys encountered on our way to school and back home. And I still remember when he proposed a little monkey and ask her to come down and go with him to introduce to his parents. It was so funny. I miss u my little cute friend. 

The dancing of beautiful flowers in the tune and rhythm of dear wind was so moving when I fall in love to a little sweet girl when I was in PP. I miss her sudden kiss on my chick! As a little boy I used to get her flowers and beautiful plants on way back to home from school. I used to carry her bag and we always loved to play in sand and stream water. Our love was so innocent. I miss her so much that I am happy to see her now as a good mother!