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Friday, October 21, 2011

People Cheat

People cheat. They cheat on their husbands, their wives, their life partners, boyfriends and girlfriends. Anyone can be a cheater and lots of people have cheated. Lots of members of the same group have been cheated on. Unfortunately, it has gotten to seem like cheating and being cheated on is a rite of passage. It shouldn't be, but it is. Most people set aside the potential health risks and justify their cheating as "not hurting anybody". Until the person that they've cheated on finds out. The emotional ramifications of being cheated on can be devastating and take a long time to get over. Not to mention the destruction of a relationship, way of life and in some cases, a family.

So, why do people cheat? If it's so potentially dangerous and has all kinds of side effects, why would people take the chance on cheating? It's important to remember that some cheating takes place when people are young. They might be a teenager and on a "self discovery" kick. It isn't uncommon for college students to cheat and be cheated on. This type of cheating is usually more understandable, because this is the time that we are discovering life on our own, how to be grown up and deal with grown up situations. If we were dating someone before we went to school, it's likely that for a while we will try to hold on to the best of both worlds. For lots of young people, this results in cheating and being cheated on.
This type of cheating can be hurtful and potentially pose a risk to the health of the people involved, but it isn't necessarily devastating. Most people who are cheated on at a young age recover emotionally and are able to move on with little or no relationship issues later.

The other type of frequent cheating that occurs can be found among committed couples, such as people who are married. While the excuses for this type of cheating run rampant, the real reasons usually amount to the same thing: dissatisfaction in their current relationship. This can be due to any number of factors: money, lack of communication, lack of understanding and attention, etc. The bottom line is, though, that cheating is often the result of one or more aspects of the relationship that cause unhappiness.

A cheater will often fantasize about the act for a while before it happens and many times, it's purely luck that they don't get caught the first time around. Since "cheating" is often brought about by a buildup of negativity and a need to gain immediate gratification, these situations may not be very well planned out at first. If "cheating" moves on to an affair the situation will usually take on a more planned and secretive dimension that is meant to keep people from finding out about it.

So, what is it that keeps some people from actually getting to the cheating stage, anyway? We all go out, we all meet new people and statistically, there are at least a hundred people that might be perfect for us. There is always someone out there that each one of us meets who we will find very attractive and they will find us to be the same. Why are so many people who are in committed relationships able to refrain from cheating?

The long and the short of it is that cheating is the result of an immature or selfish person who isn't looking into the long term of their relationship. They aren't considering what they could lose and at the moment, it doesn't matter. Lots of people entertain the idea of cheating, but when it comes to it, they never would. It's because these are the people who are committed to their relationship and everything that it encompasses; it would be foolish to ruin what they have for one night of instant gratification.

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